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Many LDS Young Women Are Struggling with Pornography But Aren’t Getting Help

Many LDS Young Women Are Struggling with Pornography But Aren’t Getting Help

There is a problem in the church that many people don’t realize exists.

It’s a pornography problem.

You might be thinking, “Well, that’s a shocker!”

While we all know that pornography is a plague that is spreading throughout the world and has infested the church, you might not realize that it is also common among the women of the church.

A bishop told me years ago, “People would be really surprised if they knew how many women have struggles with pornography.”

That sentiment was echoed recently by Al Carraway who is addressing the issue head on in a series of recent posts revealing the theme of countless messages she is receiving from the young women of the church.

It appears many young women are struggling with pornography as well, and the problem becomes more worrisome because they don’t know how to deal with it.

Al’s post below is very informative, as many young women don’t know what to do after they’ve sinned, because so often there is the assumption that they don’t have issues with pornography. Because of that assumption, the pure gospel of Jesus Christ, that of faith in Jesus Christ and repentance, is not being taught.

We are sharing this article in attempt to join forces with Al in helping our youth understand that there is hope through repentance, which is a wondrous gift provided us through the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

We should be teaching the pure gospel of Jesus Christ to those among us, because church is a place for those who are sinners. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”¹

The larger problem is not the sin, it is in the hiding. When we attempt to cover our sins it prevents us from taking corrective action and repenting. As Stephen W. Owen taught in October 2017’s General Conference, “Repentance … points us to freedom, confidence, and peace. My message to all—especially to the youth—is that repentance is always positive.”

Not only is repentance always positive, it is always available. As it says in the Book of Mormon, “But as oft as they repented and sought forgiveness, with real intent, they were forgiven.”²

My message to all—especially to the youth—is that repentance is always positive.”

Al Carraway’s post struck quite a chord, with over 1,500 shares, and close to 300 comments. Here are some of comments that were received.

“Let me add this, PLEASE STOP giving stupid lessons that tell our youth they are chewed gum or unworthy. If you have that opinion then you absolutely do NOT understand the atonement.” – Chelle

“One of the greatest things I ever heard said from a past Bishop who is now my Stake President. I wish I would have spent less time as a parent teaching all the things “not to do” and teach more about “what to do when we do them.” Teaching about how to USE the Atonement is more important than don’t do this and don’t do that lessons. Great reminder! Thanks!!” – Tami

“I didn’t know this until I was a bishop’s wife… one day I asked my husband if listening to people’s confessions was the worst part of his job. He said, “No way! I love it! That’s the best part of my job! When someone comes to me that means they want to change! There is never more love in my office than when I’m working with someone on repentance. Repentance is an act of love not of shame! I wish I could help more people understand that!” I have used those words in lesson after lesson since then, especially with Young Women. I was a 40 year old woman and had no idea, so how would they know as teenagers that if they go to a bishop for help, they will be met with nothing but love. That’s what I want people to know!!!” – Tami

LDS Young Women

“I went to the bishop one time and have never felt so much love before in my life. It was terrifying going in, but it was worth it. I wish I could wrap my arms around these specific young women and help them and let them know they are loved.” – Natalie

“Thank you for your post! There is a reason why Christ told his disciples to preach nothing save it were repentance and faith on the Lord. Not because they were judging the people but because repentance IS the good news of the gospel! It is not a punishment, but a gift from a loving Savior who can and wants to heal all our ills!” – Mary

“You are so right, my daughters Bishop actually brought this subject up during a 5th Sunday class. He going that young teens, thought their sins were unforgivable and no hope or future of any kind, they had no understanding of God’s love and the Saviors Atonement, and how it truly applies to their lives, their future and their sins.💜💙💖” – Peggy

Let us be more aware of the fact that we live in a state of sin. We all do. No one is exempt, and when we assume someone is, we are doing them a disservice. We must lead our youth and fellow members of our church toward Christ, as He is the healer of our souls.

May we all be powerful teachers and testifiers of the merits of Jesus Christ as was Alma, who commanded his people that they should “preach nothing save it were repentance and faith on the Lord, who had redeemed his people.”³

This post might be helpful to share with those who are concerned about the dynamics of meeting with the Bishop > What A Mormon Bishop Really Thinks Of Struggling Saints

1- Romans 3:23
2 – Moroni 6:8
3 – Mosiah 18:20
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Saturday 21st of April 2018

The root of the porn problem, for women or men, is that as a society we have allowed Satan to shape the way we see and understand the human body. We have let him convince us to see it as an object of lust and of shame. We have strongly associated simple nudity with sexuality. Then, because of our fear of sexuality, (remember, God gives faith, not fear) we have hidden the human form. By doing so, there is a pent-up natural curiosity combined with the allure of the forbidden that amplifies temptation and lays the foundation for a problem with porn. You see, both the "prude" viewpoint and the pornographic viewpoint teach the same underlying lesson -- the body is an object of lust and shame. Prudery says to hide it, and porn says to flaunt and use it, but they are two sides of the same evil coin. (See

We must to try to see the body as God sees it. -- Not as an object of lust, but as an object of divine design and part of the essence of who we are. It must be painful to God when we are ashamed of the wonderful bodies he has given us. Scripture does not indicate that bodies are to always be hidden. The Bible and even the Book of Mormon have many indications that simple nudity was commonplace in parts of society, or even for prophets, and was not condemned. Only inappropriate sexuality was condemned.

The individual who regularly sees nakedness in wholesome non-sexual contexts comes to understand the difference between nudity and sexuality. These are two independent concepts. Just ask a nurse. Sadly, especially in mormon culture, we are left to learn from the sexualized media around us how to interpret nudity, and what an acceptable body looks like. The result is body shame when we don't meet the world's standard, and ungodly sexualization of simple nudity -- the recipe for porn.

The person who knows from experience what real people's nipples or genitals, or any body part look like, and for whom just seeing them is not a sexual experience, is not tempted by images that leave just a little to the imagination. The imagination can always come up with something better than reality. When reality is familiar, the imagination will not have a chance to get started -- then the soft porn that initially traps most people is clearly unrealistic, without any titillation, and easily cast aside.

Here is a link to an article that a friend of mine wrote they might do a better job of explaining the ideas: